life – Notes from Ladybug

Why do you feel not enough?

Society has made us think that we are not enough: you do not have a house, you do not have a husband/wife/serious relationship, a career or something else. The truth is that society wants to feed you an illusion of a perfect life so that it can force you to buy things.For example, they sell you the idea that your life cannot be complete without a house, and they will force on you a mortgage so that you can buy a house, and then you will get into debt so that you can live a life that you may not want. Maybe your idea of a happy life is to be free, not being in debt for a house because maybe you have not decide were you will settle, that for a moment you want to see places and explore the world.

The world is big and you might feel helpless in front of the life’s events, trust me, don’t panic. It takes a lot of courage to be as you are in this moment in time: broken, happy, conflicting as it may seem. Feel your emotions and make a plan. Don’t ever feel that you are behind in life, because you are on your own path. Nobody has experimented your life and what it took to get here, you are right were you are supposed to be. Keep going, you will succeed. Keep going, you are going places. You can do whatever you want. Believe in yourself.

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Fall in love

Fall in love with who you are,

Fall in love with the sky,

Fall in love with the wind,

Fall in love with the stranger on the street..

Words

Live the way you want

Observe

Make mistakes

Fall in love

Fall

Rise again

And never stop

You can

Fight for what you want

Believe in yourself

Trust me

You can.

How to love

The best kind of love that you can experience is self love…that was straight like a quote 🙂 maybe it is, maybe I have heard it somewhere before. But it is true, in order to receive and give love, you need to start loving yourself.

I have recently read Jay Shetty’s “8 Rules Of Love” and one of the main ideas were that you receive what you give, therefore you must spread kindness. He talks in dept also about karma and other stuff, but this is true-be kind to others. Also, he suggests that everyone must be careful how they present themselves to the world, because that version can make someone fall in love and then you will say that it is not you- ” it was just a mask”, that means that is your fault since you did not presented your authentic self. I recommend you read this book, it shifts your perspectives on love. Another great thing that he said that when searching for love; especially when meeting someone new, you should focus on 3 things and the first dates: if you like their personality, if you respect their values and if you would like to help him/her fulfill his/her dreams. Also, in a recent interview with Drew Barrymore, when he was asked by her on why she is not finding romantic partner, he said, that she should analyze if she has love in her life, maybe is experiencing in other ways trough her friendships, family, because after all love is not entirely romantic life. I thought that this is a powerful way to view life, be grateful and search for love of any kind, not just for the “man of your dreams”.

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Life is complex, and you may not have it all at this moment, but you need to be patient and be kind to others and yourself. I will add something, when pursuing a life partner, make sure you pin point what you actually want in a partner. Start searching and remember action is needed after all in all aspects of our lives.

How to change your life

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Since you’ve found this article, maybe you need something to change in your life. Believe me, I was in your shoes and I still am. Let’s say that this blog is my way of doing so.

Acknowledge where you are at this point in your life. Is everything alright? Did you want to achieve something by a certain age and you didn’t. That’s okay, there’s no time limit to your dreams. Check in first your mental state: are you angry all the time-why this may happen? Are you happy? Are you okay?…Check and list your emotions that you are going through at this stage.

After you have acknowledged your emotions, try to find a reason why you are feeling this way-did you suffered from a heartbreak, or maybe you’ve lost your job? In many case, the reasons may be superficial. As psychologists say, suffering may come from your childhood; you were conditioned to behave or act in a certain way. I recommend you start reading the book “How to do the work” by Nicole LePera to help you in that area. Dig deep down into your condition and you may find yourself starting to change. It will be messy, you will be angry towards those who have raised you, but nobody’s at fault here. You have to break your old pattern and evolve into a new human being. The next step- your reinvention. After all, humans constantly evolve and change during their lives, you were not the same person you were 10 years ago, but that’s okay. Nobody expects that.

Dare to dream. What do you want to do with your life? Do you want to switch careers, do you want to find the love of our life? Start breaking your major goals into small ones: changing careers – such as figuring out what you are good at, taking some classes; finding love-meet new people, don’t judge people so easily. Find your “ikigai” ( your meaning in life). I recommend you read the book “The Ikigai Journey: A Practical Guide to Finding Happiness and Purpose the Japanese Way” by Hector Garcia.

I know that this blog post, probably didn’t help you a lot, it may be only a superficial recommendation from my part, but I hope that you will be able to transform your life for better.